I am so in love with this I can’t even begin to express it. I was reading a book this weekend and it mentioned Neghar Fonooni and when I googled her, this article came up. I can 100% relate to this. I was 10 pounds slimmer, completely cut out and looked amazing. However, I was not happy. My life revolved around training and meal planning. Now I still train regularly but I’ve relaxed on counting every last calorie. I’ve found a balance that works for me. An often overlooked aspect of health is happiness. I now strive for balance in my life and with my clients. I want them to live the healthiest all around life they can. And yes, that means we do not strive for perfection. We strive for balance and happiness. Eating healthy most of the time with occasional nights out will not hurt our overall health but it will add quality to our lives.
Here are the quotes from Neghar, they are simply too important not to share:
In 2009 I was 120 pounds and 12 percent body fat. I was ripped out of my mind and also ACTUALLY out of my mind. I counted every last calorie and worked out about two hours per day. I was in an abusive relationship, lacked confidence, and only felt good about myself when I was lean. I weighed myself every single day and allowed that number to dictate how I felt about myself.
Today I weigh roughly 134 pounds and probably am about 17 to 18 percent body fat. I don’t actually know, to be honest. I work out 15 to 30 minutes per day, and once a week, I do a longer strength only session, allotting more time for rest. I enjoy red wine on the regs, and while I eat a nourishing diet, I don’t stress out over food. When I travel, I indulge in local cuisine. I am active, strong, and fit. I’m not RIPPED, and I honestly DO NOT care.
Why? Because any time I want to get shredded again, I know what to do. I know that I’ll need to tighten up my diet, and I know that I’ll need to be patient; leaning out will take a significant amount of time. I just don’t WANT to do that right now, and that’s okay.
I call this “reverse progress,” but I actually think it’s real progress. I’m happier now.
Being lean isn’t my top priority. If it was, I’d work for it. My priority right now is being the best mom and wife I can be. My purpose is to teach women how to love and embrace their bodies, and should they want to be leaner, show them how to do it without going crazy.
I’m sharing this with you because I want you to see that fitness professionals aren’t perfect. We aren’t always shredded and we shouldn’t just show you our highlight reel. Sometimes I’m leaner than others, and that fluctuation is normal. It took me years to be okay with that and to accept my body just as it is, 10 pounds up or down. I could look at that picture from 2009 and feel badly about myself for gaining weight, or I could look at the picture from a few weeks ago and feel proud of myself. I choose to feel proud.
In the picture on the left, I was miserable. Today I am free as a bird. I’ve chosen not to let my body fat percentage dictate how I feel about myself and fully accepted my body and all of its beautiful imperfections. I hope you will too.